Is it better to have had and lost, or not have had at all?
Watching "Sex And The City" reruns the other night, I heard this quote and it left me in deep thought. "Is it better to have had and lost, or not have had at all?" Sometimes I find this question very debatable. I spent most of last year thinking "NOT HAD AT ALL" lmao. Looking back into 2008 and anything that no longer is, on the brink of the new year, I have to wonder. If those people, things and situations are not here at this present time, do I wish they never happened or I never met them at all? After careful consideration, I decided that for me, it would be better to have had and lost. Every situation, person that entered my life whether lasting or not, has left me with a lesson to carry on. So, yeah I lost some friends, I lost some loved ones, I broke some hearts, had broken hearts, said the wrong things, felt like life gave up on me, have had people misjudge me... (list goes on) In the end I wouldn't trade it for the world, although at the time I would have begged to differ, probably wanting to crawl under my bed for eternity.
- The point that I am trying to make is that SHIT HAPPENS !!!! When it does happen, no matter how bad, there is always a lesson to be taken from it. To not have had it at all, would mean that we would deprive ourselves from learning. We would also prevent ourselves from taking risks, when sometimes we give it all we have, not knowing what we will get in return.
- I think its a great thing to be armed with the mentality - that is better to have had and lost. That way, when/if we do lose it. We are prepared to view the situation in a positive light.
- So even when you lose the one you thought was your prince charming, you lose your best friend, you lose pieces of yourself or who you were. There is something about going through those moments that make us a better person and help us persevere through the next hurdle.
These are just my thoughts...This year has been all about losing and change for me. With each person that came and went, also came a great opportunity. At first I thought I would trade it all just to have them back, now I realize that this is just the way it was supposed to be all along. If you really believe with all your might that you are better than the bullshit, you will miraculously always have a way out of it.